Becca Ellis
About Becca
Emotional Wellbeing Guide
(and formerly anxious AuDHDer)
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On the outside I looked happy, calm and confident...and I usually was!
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But I was often one thought away from feeling like 💩 about myself, and 99% of the time it was related to other people. Me comparing myself to them, me wondering what they thought of me, me reacting to how they responded to me....
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I've spent all my adult life looking for answers to
"How do they do that...?"
and
"Why can't I do that...?" ,
trying out and training in techniques and modalities to feel better about myself.
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Then with motherhood also came the added "gift" of an existential crisis. I was no longer an English teacher - my identity, that thing I was great at - and I certainly wasn't feeling like a good mother (ehm, hello Post Natal Depression) so who the hell was I? I lost my language skills, I could barely complete a sentence in English, I felt so sad that my son had a sad useless mum.
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I say gift because it lead me to the explanations and tools that got me out of the pit. He wasn't an easy baby and in focussing on how to make him calmer I found explanations for my own struggles,and ways to overcome them.
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I felt like I was slashing through the jungle in the dark, with a rather blunt machete at times, with plenty of dead ends and distractions along the way, but I've cleared a path for others so their journey is easier.
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These days nothing makes me happier than sharing what I've learned with others who are on their own quest to feel better about themselves. For the last 25 years, even before my dark Knight, I've been learning and using a number of healing modalities - insatiable learner, moi?
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I feel especially qualified to support those whose paths or quirks intersect with mine - TESOL teachers, language learners, people pleasers, social anxiety sufferers and neurodivergent souls - though if you are a human with feelings, that's enough of an overlap for me to give you my best too!
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Want to have a chat about your situation and explore the best way to help you? This may include the option of working with me, or to direct you to other resources, but it won't be a pushy sales call - those make me run a mile, so I would not inflict that on you!
"I found Becca by searching on the internet... we had a free interview of 30 minutes where she explained everything about how EFT works and asked about my issues...
Although I am Spanish speaker, communication with Becca is easy. We had a few sessions and she was so sweet and welcoming. I do recommend doing sessions with Becca, for sure she will help you!" JM, Spain
I'm passionate about helping others with similar dragons - if I can tame mine, you can too.
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Especially because these are often dragons other people can't even see, or if they do they think we're talking about pesky little mosquitoes we can swat away, not the grotesque monsters we battle.
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I know they are real to us, and I know they stop us from showing ourselves in our full glory. That's why I want to help.
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Do you want to check if we're a good fit? Zero pressure, ever.
Some of the Dragons
of
Social Anxiety
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Perfectionism
People Pleasing
Harsh Inner Voice Procrastination
Other People's Opinions
Internalised Oppression
They used to be a constant shadow in all areas of my life
As a language learner
As a teacher and teacher trainer
As a human who wanted badly to connect
The constant shadow is gone, and the cyclical nature of healing reflects the decrease of frequency, intensity and duration. In other words, the work done means I can trust I can handle life, even when it gets gnarly.
Unshaming and compassion go hand in hand, because perfection and being invulnerable to hurt are not the goal, being able to feel and allow all the colours of being human is, in all it's messy glory.
OK, but what do you actually do?
I love learning, the novelty, the potential, the challenge - as you see below I've dabbled in a number of modalities. The ones I use with clients are the ones that hold my attention and I've become skilled at. While I don't practice all the modalities I've trained in, I take what I need and only use what I know that, at worst, will do no harm. I'm fascinated by what makes YOU trick and will always put your needs before my wish to continue a protocol.
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I am NOT a psychologist, psychotherapist or doctor, nor do I claim to have their skills and experience. If I don't think I am equipped to support you in your journey, especially if you have no other professional support, I will not lead you to believe that I can. That's why we have an honest chat first.
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As with every professional in this field I'm committed to ongoing mentoring with supervisors, and of course my continuous personal development work.
From taking Bach Rescue remedy as a teen when Stephen King's The Shining haunted me too much (my first and last book like that), through chronic back pain, to working through lifelong social anxiety in a guided EFT community, my own desire to feel better has informed my path of training and service, sharing only what has worked for me.
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Key Professional Training leading to Certification:
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1998 - 2001 - Reiki Level 1, 2, 3; Master (Spain - various)
2001 - Quiromasaje (Spain - Instituto de Terapias Aplicadas) No longer available.
2016 - Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) (UK - Tania A Prince & Spain - Sophie Da Costa)
2024 - Integral Eye Movement Techniques (IEMT) (UK - Anthony Roberts)
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In progress
2025 - Intention-based Energy Process (Steve Wells)
2025 - UnShaming based Trauma Skills (David Bedrick)
2025 - Light Matrix technique (Sharon King)
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Other training includes Metamorphic Technique, Thai Massage, Indian Head Massage, Tuning Fork Therapy, Biomagnetic Pair, Psych K and Aromatherapy.
